Happiness … to Feel it, Fear it or to Earn it.

Feel it:
What makes me happy?
I should be grateful for a lot of things but honestly and top of mind I would say something and that something by the way isn’t present right now.
PAUSE!
Is it realistic that the only thing I don’t have is the one thing that makes me happy?
Shall I wait for it or move on and try to enjoy what I have been given and maybe one day I will have something better than what I wanted
Is it loyalty or self torture to wait ?! will it make a difference to stay miserable in a shell waiting or go out, hope for the best and let what will be .. be .
Fear it:
Some say … fear is a memory of pain. being careful not to get hurt (again) has more to do with thinking about causes or reasons than expecting it.
Ask a dentist and he will tell you that anticipating pain doesn’t make it any easier it just prolongs it.
The positive thoughts and affirmations like “I am strong and tolerant and many people go under the same procedures everyday “ or “I will bear this temporary pain to solve my teeth problems” or “it’s painful both ways, let’s get done with that root canal once and for all”, … that’s what makes things better.
We fear the recurrence of things that has already happened and we survived them … congratulations we are still alive !
I remember a relative’s word after losing her mother preceded by the death of her son and then husband saying “ khalas ba2a 3andy yaqeen” meaning that she developed a kind of believer’s certainty. She was saying that with comfort, peace and ease.
We also fear things that not only others have went through but enjoyed … people with acrophobia for example (fear of heights) won’t enjoy the view from the 10th floor balcony though others would. There are a lot of examples including break ups, people are not impacted as severely as others and again it’s all in here (the mind) and all about the thought that a temporary pain can be endured to end suffering or avoid a greater one.
So what is “Fear” as defined ? it is the instinctual response to potential danger, resulting in nervous and physical changes to prepare the body for actions (such as running, fighting, even been able to lift a car to save a trapped child). as protective mechanisms to increase our chances of survival.
So fear is a response to face danger not a relentless state of anticipation.
Earn it:
Do I deserve to be happy/ content?
What about … they aren’t happy, how insensitive of me to be happy now?
Answers:
If God gives you happiness, you have gotta take it and be thankful for it. If happiness comes knocking at your door, it’s yours and it belongs to those who you can share it with.
About other people’s discontentment: survivors guilt.
Things might look different from a more positive approach and the energy exerted in negative feelings can better drive constructive actions and attempts to help. You can’t steal from others’ happiness packages.

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