Archive for August, 2008

Circle of support

Life is based on the concept of exchange, what you pay in return for satisfying your needs, wants. “Pay” here doesn’t have to be of a monetary nature, it’s broader than just that it’s anything. In other words it’s what you “take” and what you “give”.


1- Do all people give in order to take?

2- What do you think about the two words “give” and “take” , which one is better ?

Don’t rush, in life there is no absolute value.

If “give” is better, what about … “give up”?

If “take” is worse, what about “take care”, “take my heart” !

Some people are givers, others are takers and in the middle those who are holding a scale to make sure the two sides are equal. The measures however are always relative and subjective based on assumptions, perceptions and personal values … “give one, take ten”.

I can assume that takers get frustrated when they don’t receive as much as they want.
Ironically, givers get more frustrated when they can’t give… why can’t they?

Many reasons like:
– If what they offer isn’t appreciated or needed, rendering love to a materialistic/ not interested person. (Ouch!)
– If they don’t know who is in need or what to give.
– When they try to help and get misunderstood for being intruders, playing saints or even worse “enohom hobl”.

I like the idea of the “Circle of support” ; meaning, if someone is in grief, he/ she won’t be able to listen to some happy people chanting and living in the Lala land, they would rather go to someone else who has been there (el 2ido fel maya mesh zay el 2ido fel nar).
In order to be understood, felt and above to be guided on how to get through this period. They want motivation and real life examples.

The same applies if someone wants to lose weight, if this person is supported by others who have the same target or at least they know how hard it is and what diets do to the moods and the emotional rollercoaster state. He/ she would feel better.

For you givers out there, try to formulate a circle of support for those who need you. And coach them how to support others. Backgrounds, cultures, values and beliefs may differ, but emotions are the same. I believe one day we will all be one big circle.


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“Shoot for the moon and if you miss you’ll still be among the stars.
Promise me you will find a job you love this time !”
PS, I love you…

FBI AGENT – Am not American. Do not want to live in America. Have no police experience.
LAWYER – Hated school, hated studying. Do not want to go to college for ten million years.
DOCTOR – Ugghh.
NURSE – Unflattering uniforms.
WAITRESS – Would eat all the food.
PROFESSIONAL PEOPLE SPOTTER – Nice idea, but no one would pay me.
BEAUTICIAN – Do not want to see areas of other people’s bodies.
SECRETARY – Never again
JOURNALIST – Cont spill properly enuff. Ha-ha, should be comedienne.
ACTRESS – Could not possibly outdo my wonderful performance in the critically acclaimed “girls and the city”.
MODEL – Too small, too fat, too old.
SINGER – Rethink idea of comedienne
HOTSHOT BUSINESSWOMAN IN CONTROL OF LIFE – Hmmm… Must do research tomorrow… 😀

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Volunteers are needed for packing food items. Instead of making monetary contribution you can also donate your effort and time as there is a shortage in the number of packers. If you are interested, roll down to the Olympic Group Warehouse in Nasr City anytime from 10am to 10pm to work for a couple of hours. May Allah reward you.

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Choose one, or more …

البخاري ومسلم عن أبي هريرة رضي الله عنه عن النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم قال: “سبعة يظلهم الله في ظله يوم لا ظل إلا ظله: الإمام العادل، وشاب نشأ في عبادة الله، ورجل قلبه معلق في المساجد، ورجلان تحابا في الله اجتمعا عليه وتفرقا عليه، ورجل دعته امرأة ذات منصب وجمال، فقال إني أخاف الله، ورجل تصدق بصدقة فأخفاها حتى لا تعلم شماله ما تنفق يمينه، ورجل ذكر الله خاليا ففاضت عيناه” .

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Preparing for Ramadan

Ramadan is approaching and for me it’s a great opportunity where there is more time for performing the rituals and sunna, a wonderful feeling that every Muslim is trying to be a better person. A chance to think about new resolutions.

It’s a month of mercy, forgiveness and immunity from hell. A month of sharing the feelings, the pain and need of others. The month of Quran; remedy of the heart. The month where we try to make up for our bad deeds and habits and replacing them with good ones. Substitute for all the bad things that our tongues have said, our eyes have seen, our hands have reached, …
حَتَّى إِذَا مَا جَاؤُوهَا شَهِدَ عَلَيْهِمْ سَمْعُهُمْ وَأَبْصَارُهُمْ وَجُلُودُهُمْ بِمَا كَانُوا يَعْمَلُونَ
” يَوْمَ تَشْهَدُ عَلَيْهِمْ أَلْسِنَتُهُمْ وَأَيْدِيهِمْ وَأَرْجُلُهُم بِمَا كَانُوا يَعْمَلُونَ”
So I am suggesting that we can start from now with :

1- استحضار النية
2- كثرة الاستغفار
3- التوبة

Beside fasting and the other rituals, let’s brainstorm what else can we do to have thawab and help our brother and sisters.

Suggested ideas:

1- Preparing packs for low income families including food items like rice, beans, … (classic idea).
2- Preparing processed food, buying dates and juice packs and donating it to mawa2ed el ra7man, mosques, hospitals… last year thanks to Allah we done it in ma3had el 2awram and ma3had el 2alb as the families of the patients are mostly coming from villages and they return back the same day.
3- Purchasing fans and carpets for mosques, detergents for the toilets of the mosques.
4- Reading Quran and teaching its provisions and recitation.
5- For girls, purchasing and donating praying covers (2esdalat) to be used by unveiled women in mosques.
6- Volunteering to take the neighbors’ children (above 7) to the mosque . That’s what my dad used to do.
7- Help in resolving problems between family members, friends, colleagues or people in the street during a traffic jam (الاصلاح بين الناس)
8- Visiting the orphan kids.
9- As this year Ramadan will be a back to school time, uniforms and school bags are really above the low income families abilities.
10- Visiting patients and attending funerals.

These were just top of mind ideas, they aren’t for only Ramadan, this month can be a start. Would love to hear more ideas …

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